Read Aaron Lazare’s requirements for an effective apology. These attempted apologies and expressions of consolation failed to elicit. Aaron Lazare, M.D., a noted scholar on the psychology of shame and humiliation, offers a thoroughly engaging and lucid examination of an important and. On Apology, by Aaron Lazare. New York, Oxford University. Press, , pp., $ What a pleasure to read a book by a prominent psychiatrist.

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Third, the person offering the apology must accept responsibility for the offense. A third healing factor is validation that the victim was not responsible for the offense. In this book, Aaron Lazare, M.

George Steinbrenner to Yogi Berra. A genuine apology offers explanation, a communication of remorse, and an offer of recompense. This topic fascinates me – what can I say? No trivia or quizzes yet. A sixth healing factor apoolgy reparation, when the victim receives some form of compensation for his or her pain.

I read many short articles on apologies, and then read this book.

Suspecting our youngest child, Naomi, then 16, who was t This book started out really boring. Lastly, people who only bestow forgiveness on people who have apologized, which Lazare points out is the most religiously sound way of doing things for both Jewish and Christian peoples.

On Apology – Aaron Lazare – Oxford University Press

Customers who bought this item also bought. Lan rated it it was ok Dec 29, Open Preview See a Problem? Very detailed and thought-provoking, but rather dry and dragging at times.

In On Apology, Aaron Lazare offers an eye-opening analysis ofthis vital The next morning, my wife asked again. But my wife was confident that Naomi was the culprit, and so she began to lecture her on the importance of telling the truth and of trust in relationships. A causal relationship between apology and forgiveness is understandable based on this analysis of apology.


Iraqis, understandably, were enraged. President Clinton, President Grant. This is a book you will want everyone you know zpology read, and one that you will remember the contents of long after you close the covers. Feb 08, Gabrielle rated it liked it.

One of the most profound interactions that can occur between people, apologies have the power to heal humiliations, free the mind from deep-seated guilt, remove the desire for aoplogy, and ultimately restore broken relationships.

My daughter castigated her by saying, “You should have known that Aagon am allergic to nuts and would never have taken a brownie with nuts. Finally, the seventh healing factor is a dialogue that allows the offended parties to express their feelings toward the offenders and even grieve over their losses. Great book – gets into the nitty-gritty of apology and what constitutes an apology. He carefully disambiguates the elements of an apology, the motivations that push us to want apologies, the If only I could write this well.

Lazare answers all these questions in this fascinating volume. I was horrified by this story and since Lazare was describing this as “a successful apology,” I was worried about the future of this book. Ships from and sold by Amazon. Latrell Sprewell to his coach.

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Reading this short and insightful book will make you think about your own relationships and situations in which you were the offended seeking an apology versus being the offender and offering or coerced into giving an apology. Richard Reeves to President Gerald Ford.

Anyone who has ever fallen short of ideal behavior should read this book. We can awron what personality traits in people make it particularly difficult for them to apologize: It furthers the University’s objective of excellence in research, scholarship, and education by publishing worldwide.

He also describes brief apologies, such as the ones you make after accidentally bumping into someone or keeping a borrowed book for six months. Amazon Renewed Refurbished products with a warranty.


I learned a lot, not only about apologies and apologizing, but also about history. The Language of Public Apology. Lasare apology and forgiveness between these men occurred in private, their story serves as a microcosm of what can happen after lqzare apologies between groups or nations. Does a sitting Roman Catholic pope have the standing to apologize for the mistakes of the church’s priests and parishioners from earlier centuries?

I hate to think one of my children would do such a thing. There’s a problem loading this menu right now. The act of apologizing is quite simply immensely fulfilling. I think you will do the same.

Explore the Home Gift Guide. For the past 10 years, I have studied the structure and function of public and private apologies. Throughout, the author looks not only at individuals but also at groups and nations–for instance,Abraham Lincoln’s apology for slavery, the German government’s apology to the victims of World War II, and the U.

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During my analysis, I have been surprised that most writers and researchers overlook the relationship between forgiveness and apology. To purchase, apklogy your preferred ebook provider. A simple test for determining whether “I apologize” is an apology in the formal sense of the word is to ask whether the person making the statement would repeat the behavior if a similar situation arose. Also, From a literary perspective, Elaine Showalter, alology professor of English literature at Princeton University, argues that male authors allow their male characters to mistreat women and escape without an apology Showing of 26 reviews.